5 Years

June 25th, 2013

This week Ciara and I celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary. It's been a crazy adventure in a short amount of time. I'm so very thankful to have a woman of such deep character, maturity, wisdom and grace to share it with. Aside from deciding to take Jesus at his word, marrying Ciara has been the greatest decision I have made in my life. I can't imagine a life without her. It sure doesn't hurt that she's also a bombshell.

In the last year especially, I think that God has really been knitting us together more tightly. Marriage has become one of the most rewarding experiences in my life. While we're still far from perfect, it's easy to see the trajectory that we're on, based on where we started and where we are now. We both think a bit less in terms of ourselves and a bit more in terms of each other. Our disagreements are a bit quieter and a bit more respectful. We support each other's goals and sacrifice our personal desires to see the other achieve theirs. We are increasingly on the same page about money, ministry, family, friends, activities and parenting. God uses trial and struggle to deepen us, and there's few places this is more true than in the context of marriage.

I put together a little photo album of the last five years as a gift for Ciara, and it really drove home the fact that we have an incredibly rich life. There has been a lot of hardship in our young marriage, from job loss to broken bones, unexpected pregnancy, family drama, and on and on. I think Ciara and I as a couple definitely have a tendency to keep our heads to the ground and rarely stop to look around at what God has done for us. Looking through the photographic evidence of the last five years, I'm emotionally overwhelmed by how richly and abundantly God has blessed us. We have an absolutely stellar life, and have built an amazing variety of memories. I would not trade my family and the life we have for anything in this world. We don't have the nicest stuff or go on the most lavish vacations or eat the finest food, but our life is full of more riches than we deserve or acknowledge.

One of my most consistent and repetitive prayers lately is that God would allow us to have a good run as a family. I hope that I can experience a long, full life as a husband and a father. I want to be around for all the things Kisa will experience as she grows up, and I want to be able to grow old with my wife. I want to know what it's like to have loved the same woman for 50 or 60 years. There are no guarantees of this, and so I ask God that he would bless me in this way. I hope that God might allow me to outlive Ciara, so that she can be provided, protected and cared for by me all the days of her life. It may appear morbid to consider death at this stage of life, but I don't think so. I'm less concerned about just living a life but rather leaving a legacy, and that starts right now.

We had planned on an extended trip for our five year anniversary, but it's not going to happen. We decided that Kisa was still a little bit too young for that, and it's difficult to find someone to watch her during the work week. Therefore, we are going to blow the petty cash and gift cards we have been saving up the last couple months on a 4-day staycation while Kisa is at Mark and Anne's. We'll be taking full advantage of what it means to live in Portland. Here's our itinerary:

Thursday - Portland

Drop off Kisa

Lunch at Portland food carts

Raid Belmont Station for some craft beers

Browse IKEA for ideas for redoing our living room

Dinner at ClaimJumper

Movie at Cinetopia

Friday - Hiking and Celebrating

Breakfast at Black Bear Diner

Hiking Devil's Rest in the Gorge

Drinks and appetizers at The Matador

Dinner at Meriwether's

Saturday - Movie Marathon

12 hours of LOTR extended editions

Lunch at Thai Bloom

Fondue feast for dinner at home

Sunday - Wrapping it Up

Sleep in

Pick up Kisa

Check out the Organic Brewer's Fest

Life | Ciara


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Mark Owen says...

Nicely written Matt. I couldn't hope for a more tender hearted and godly man for my daughter!

Posted June 26th, 2013 @ 1:25 AM

PMasta says...

Thanks, Jason! I'm sure we'll be hitting up a book store somewhere in there...

Posted June 25th, 2013 @ 10:48 PM

Mom says...

Actually they are dropping her off at Poppie and Gammie's on Thursday because we are taking her to Oak's Park!!!!! Fun fun, fun!!! :)

Posted June 25th, 2013 @ 9:29 PM

Jason Owen says...

I'm so happy for you. The two of you make a wonderful couple, and I'm glad you found each other.

Your itinerary looks enjoyable, and I hope you guys have fun. In case these didn't come up during your brainstorming, I also suggest visiting Powell's Books and OMSI.

Posted June 25th, 2013 @ 9:15 PM

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